Planning a wedding that's reflective of two backgrounds is tricky. Remember that the most important first step is that the soon-to-be husband and wife get on the same page. Talk about your vision for the ceremony before involving anyone else. Listen to and keep an open mind about your family's ideas and concerns so that everyone is comfortable.
Choose flowers that incorporate the bride's heritage, like this Chinese red ginger.
Use items with family history in the dessert, like a cake topper that's been handed down from the bride or groom's grandparents or parents.
Be creative with table settings -- identify them with words that mean something to you as a couple, like the qualities of a good marriage ("double happiness" or "trust.")
INVITATIONS + PROGRAMS
Design invitations that reflect both the bride and groom's heritage. For instance, print the invitations in both languages, like Chinese and English. Then, keep the programs very simple.
If the bride wants to wear a traditional American white wedding dress, have the bridesmaids wear something that reflects her heritage, like a brightly colored silk kimono.
A heirloom ring is a great way to incorporate family history, like a grandmother's ring. (It's also Chinese tradition to give gold jewelry to the bride.)
Little touches of Chinese traditional colors, like red ginger and gold sashes on the chairs, tie in the bride's family's heritage.